You’ve been doing really well for a few months now. You’re working the program and each day gets a bit easier than the last.
You’re starting to feel like staying sober is actually possible this time, but you know you’ve got a ways to go before you can truly put your addiction behind you.
You’ve tried a few different times to stop using. Each time you felt a little stronger in your decision but ultimately you ended up going back to drugs and alcohol.
You’ve realized though that the life of an addict is not what you want for yourself. You noticed an intense desire to get clean and stick with it for the sake of finally having a good relationship with yourself and those you love. You’re really scared about what it means to live a truly sober life and to have to face the issues and memories that cause you pain without the chance to numb yourself or forget.
So now you feel like you’re going to have to find a whole lot of courage to keep from using drugs and alcohol
Most days you get the urge to use a few times. But on the worst ones it seems like you’re looking to get drunk or high all the time. You haven’t slipped yet, but you know without some strong support in your corner it’s only a matter of time. Sometimes it seems like you’d be better off if you could just escape your problems. You feel ashamed that you’d rather numb yourself out than face your truth and heal.
You know staying sober doesn’t come easy. It’s a matter of taking it day by day. But you never thought that after you went through treatment you’d still be struggling. What you didn’t expect was how much you’d still want to get high. You never predicted you’d be so unsure about your future. And you certainly had no idea you’d fill so unstable.
So here you are
Trying hard every day to keep it together.
You now see how much of an effort staying sober is going to take.
It was the third time you’d gotten to hang out with your family since getting home from rehab. Everything was going well, and you were actually having fun and enjoying everyone’s company. Until your sister brought up high school and all the dumb things you did back then. You’ll never know if she was aware of how big of a trigger this would be, but you suddenly got the strongest urge to use. You knew you couldn’t control what another person has to say, but it still upset you.
You walked inside to get it together and you started to think:
“This family is so full of drama it’s no wonder I’m an addict.”
“I don’t know how I’m ever going to be able to be in these difficult circumstances without wanting to use”
“I’m never going to feel like a normal person who can handle normal situations.”
But when you were finally able to be kind to yourself you thought:
“I need extra support to make sure I’m going to be able to do this.”
You honestly thought you were going to have an easier time staying sober, but when you think about it
You’ve got a lot of work to do on yourself before your sobriety is solid. And none of your efforts or meetings are going to make a difference if you don’t start to understand the reasons you turned to drugs and alcohol in the first place. In fact, you get triggered by the tiniest things and you’re going to have to find ways to cope before they drive you back toward your addiction.
It’s painful to think about everything you’ve been through and it’s much easier to imagine escaping it all.
But the truth is, working through all of your baggage feels really hard when you try to do it alone. Addiction is a complex issue that has many facets. You’re not the only one who has made great progress but still feels like you’re on shaky ground. Other people wonder if they’re ever going to feel normal again. And other people want to use when things get stressful.
The key is figuring out what works to help you cope without relying on substances.
With Addiction Counseling from Carol Rose Adkisson in Fontana, California
- You will feel a sureness about your sobriety
- You will learn better ways to cope with a demanding life that don’t involve using substances
- You will become aware of the emotions underneath your substance use such as shame or hurt and address them at the source
- You will feel comfortable spending time at social events even if they include drugs or alcohol
- You will feel more connected to others in your life because you will keep your addiction from getting in the way of your relationships
- She will use the 12 step language that you are familiar with if you are in Recovery through any 12 step program.
The Addiction Therapy Support Process
We’ll meet together weekly for 45-50 minute sessions. Typically, Addiction Counseling sessions continue for several months as therapy is an in-depth process.
To help you reduce your stress, isolation, and any other underlying emotions that make you reach for drugs or alcohol, I use a combination of therapeutic approaches including Family Systems and 12-step recovery and Transformational Training. These approaches focus on developing a plan, so you know how to cope and respond when you start to feel the need to use
Here’s what to expect:
WEEK ONE: Intake
During this initial session, we define the therapeutic relationship and discuss the details of the therapy contract. I gather information about you and your traumatic experiences and how they have impacted your behaviors. We also discuss the goals you have for your relationships with loved ones and how to overcome.
WEEK TWO And Beyond: Addiction Therapy
During the remaining sessions of Addiction Counseling we will spend time discussing how your history with substances is affecting you. We will also work together to develop new coping skills so that you can recognize healthy, positive ways to handle your emotions that don’t involve drugs or alcohol. Together, we’ll explore your triggers so you can understand why and when you feel the urge to get drunk or high. We will also explore mindfulness as a way to mitigate your reactions and keep you interacting positively with your friends and family.
More About Me
Hi, I’m Carol, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. I have a personal experience with addicts and am invested in helping clients overcome the root causes of their substance use, so they can stay solid in their sobriety. It is my job to help my clients understand the patterns in their lives that have made them who they are and challenge the negative thoughts that keep them stuck in addiction cycles. I’m also The Transformational Coach which means my passion is helping clients climb out from under their habitual worry to find their authentic voice and live magnificent lives. I have been involved with many 12 step programs, they helped to create the hybrid therapist that I currently am.
Who Benefits Most from Addiction Counseling with Carol Rose Adkisson
Addiction Counseling is best for those who are in active recovery and are looking for support in making their sobriety long-term. Understanding the root causes of their substance abuse helps individuals realize the truth behind their urges and helps them remain sober.
You will benefit from Addiction Therapy with me if:
- You have recently left an inpatient treatment facility and want support staying sober now that you are home
- You struggle to spend time with friends and family who aren’t sober
- Your are starting to feel better physically, emotionally, and mentally and want to make sure these changes are permanent
- You hardly recognize yourself or the path your life has taken, and you want to be happy again
- You want to be able to experience and express a wide range of emotions in a healthy way
- The slogans, the steps, the traditions, character defects, HALT, powerlessness, rigorous honest, sharing, etc. I can help to guide you both clinically and use the recovery language you understand?
There are certain situations where you might not be ready for Addiction Therapy with me. These situations include, but are not limited to:
- Those who are looking for a quick fix to substance issues
- Those who are not ready to explore the many layers behind their addictions
- Those who are unable to admit how damaging drugs and alcohol can be
- Those who need an inpatient treatment program
What Does Addiction Counseling with Carol Rose Adkisson Cost?
I do not currently work with insurance companies.
In the meantime, you and I can work together to explore payment options such as Flexible Spending Accounts, Health Service Accounts, and Out of Network insurance benefits.
Counseling with Carol Rose Adkisson is fee-for-service at the rate of $150 per hour. Or, if you prefer, we can create a package that will offer you four sessions for $500.00.
Your Next Steps
You absolutely can solidify the changes you’ve made for yourself. It is completely possible to remain sober no matter what the people you love are doing. You will be able to find new ways to cope with stress and relax that don’t mean using drugs or alcohol.
It may feel like a challenge now, but that doesn’t mean you can’t understand your tendency to reach for substances and replace the urge with something healthier.
You will have the coping skills to recognize the signs of your addiction and to keep it from taking over your life. You’ll be able to blow off steam in ways that maintain your sobriety. Ultimately, you’ll find ways to make better decisions that lead to a higher quality of life.
To schedule an appointment for addiction counseling with Carol Rose Adkisson in Fontana, California at call 909-693-3177.