There are many medical interventions that can seem like quick fixes for your problems. Surgeries and other procedures can give you the body you want after only a couple hours when it took a lifetime to look and feel the way you do now.
Bariatric Surgery is a legitimate option for helping you have the lifestyle you’re wanting. But if you don’t address the underlying issues that cause you to over-eat and gain weight in the first place, the results won’t last.
Before you became so overweight, you never paid much attention to your relationship with food. You ate whatever you wanted whenever you wanted and never gave much thought to calories or nutritional content. Food didn’t judge you or make you feel like a failure when you couldn’t cope with your emotions. Rather, you felt comfortad and like your feelings were safe as long as you were eating.
You promised yourself, indulging in good food was perfectly normal, that it was a way to nurture your body and soul. You never saw yourself getting stuffed with nutritionally empty meals or gaining weight on a weekly basis.
When you gave it some conscious thought, you figured you’d clean up your diet eventually. You planned to put more effort into your grocery list and plan out meals that were going to nourish you rather than fill a hole. And you prepared to spend the kind of money that was necessary for healthy foods.
That’s not to say you didn’t recognize it was more than just the types of foods you were eating. In fact, you noticed that every time you had a bad day you binged until you thought you would burst.
But you never anticipated masking your emotions with food. You never knew you would find comfort in filling yourself. You had no idea you’d become so attached to eating. And, you surely didn’t expect to be morbidly overweight and completely unhealthy.
So now you find yourself
Dozens of pounds overweight, hating the way you feel, and isolated from friends and family because you’re embarrassed by the way you look.
You’re shocked by how bad it’s gotten…
You went to the doctor the other day. You got a little nervous when it came time to check your vitals. You had a feeling that you weren’t in the best health.
When the doctor finally came in, he gave you the news that your cholesterol and blood pressure numbers weren’t where they should be, and you could expect to cut a few years off your lifespan. Your heart immediately sank. You new you’d been mistreating your body and your health, but you never though you’d let it get that far. He let you know that you needed to start making changes immediately or your lifestyle was going to start having a drastic impact on your health.
In a moment of clarity, you looked around recognized the way you’ve been living.
Your thoughts started to race:
“Something is truly wrong with me. I’m never going to be a healthy.”
“I’m so out of shape. There’s no way I’ll ever look the way I want.”
“What kind of solutions are out there that are going to help me immediately?”
“Even when I’m making myself feel better, I’m actually hurting my body.”
But when the self-loathing faded away, you admitted to yourself:
“There has to be a way to make changes and save myself.”
You honestly thought there were no answers to help your overeating, but now you see
Bariatric Surgery is an option. You know it’s not a quick fix, but it certainly can be a means to help you make the outward changes you’re hoping for.
But without making the internal changes that deal with why you gained weight in the first place, the results will only be temporary. In fact, Bariatric Surgery is only one tool to help you address the emotions that come with being overweight.
It’s painful to realize the behaviors you thought were helping you cope with your emotions were just masks hiding what you were really struggling with.
But the truth is, being overweight stems from some much deeper issues. Overeating is a common dysfunctional coping strategy and many others just like you turn to food as a way to make themselves feel better. The problem though, is just like any other addiction, binging becomes more and more necessary for you to feel OK.
The key is figuring out how to address the underlying emotions that caused you to start overeating in the first place.
With Bariatric Surgery Support from Carol Rose Adkisson in Fontana, California
- You will learn receive a custom-tailored plan to help you maintain your weight after the procedure
- You will recognize that happiness comes from within not from losing weight or changing your body
- You will develop better ways to handle your anxiety, so you no longer need to over-eat
- You will come to know the underlying triggers of your eating behavior and how to stop them
- You will get rid of any hopelessness you experience for feeling profoundly different than others
The Bariatric Surgery Support Process
We’ll meet together weekly for 45-50 minute sessions. Typically, surgery support counseling sessions continue for several months as it is an in-depth process to explore the trauma and anxieties that contribute to over-eating behaviors.
To help individuals become more aware of their issues with food, I use a combination of therapeutic approaches including Family Systems, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Psychological Assessment, and Emotional Processing. Each approach is evidenced-based and will help you address the root causes of your tendency to gain weight.
Here’s what to expect:
WEEK ONE: Intake
During this initial session, we define the therapeutic relationship and discuss the details of the therapy contract. I gather information about you and your traumatic experiences and how they have impacted your behaviors. We also discuss the goals you have for your relationships with loved ones and how to overcome debilitating anxiety.
WEEK TWO And Beyond: Bariatric Surgery Support
During the remaining sessions of surgery support counseling we will spend time discussing your over-eating. If you are in the pre-op stage, we will conduct psychological testing to determine your emotional state and candidacy for surgery. If you are post-operation, we will work together to support your emotional needs and redefine your relationship with food so that you increase your chances of keeping the weight off.
More About Me
Hi, I’m Carol, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. I am invested in helping clients overcome the root causes of their issues with food so that they can achieve a healthy lifestyle and maintain it. I am 8 years post my own Bariatric Surgery and know what it’s like to go through such a life-altering process. And I also know what it takes to do the emotional work necessary to keep the weight off. It is my job to help my clients understand the patterns in their lives that have made them who they are and challenge the negative thoughts that keep them stuck in unhealthy habits. I’m also an integrated health and recovery coach which means my passion is helping clients put down the fork to find their authentic voice and live magnificent lives.
Who Benefits Most from Bariatric Surgery Support with Carol Rose Adkisson
Bariatric Surgery Support is best for those who are ready to make the lifestyle changes necessary to maintain a healthy weight regardless of whether or not the will or have had Bariatric Surgery. Gaining insight around food anxieties helps individuals cope with worry without relying on unhealthy actions so that they can relate better with those who are important in their lives.
You will benefit from hoarding counseling with me if:
- You are worried about the way your current coping strategies affect your weight and that they will continue to do so after surgery
- You need help deciding if Bariatric Surgery is right for you or determining if you are a fit for other medical professionals
- You are tired of masking your feelings with more and more food
- You are able to let go of illusion that anxiety and addictive behaviors like over-eating are helpful
- You are ready to break free from the behaviors that continually jeopardize your close relationships
There are certain situations where you might not be ready for Bariatric Surgery Support with me. These situations include, but are not limited to:
- Those who are looking for a quick fix to body issues
- Those who are not ready to explore the many layers behind their issues with food
- Those who are unable to admit their role in their addictive behaviors
What Does Bariatric Surgery Support with Carol Rose Adkisson Cost?
I do not currently work with insurance companies.
In the meantime, you and I can work together to explore payment options such as Flexible Spending Accounts, Health Service Accounts, and Out of Network insurance benefits.
Counseling with Carol Rose Adkisson is fee-for-service at the rate of $150 per hour. Or, if you prefer, we can create a package that will offer you four sessions for $500.00.
Your Next Steps
It is possible to have positive relationship with food and not over-eat every time you feel emotional. You will be able to define what a healthy lifestyle is for you and stick within these parameters without your anxiety jeopardizing the progress you have made.
Just because eating too much unhealthy food has helped you process your emotions in the past, does not mean it is the only way you will ever be able to face the world around you.
You’ll be able to live your life without constantly reaching for food to numb yourself. You’ll be able to stop bottling up your emotions and take big steps forward in creating the life you are looking for. Ultimately, you’ll stop worrying you are defective and embrace yourself for who you truly are.
To schedule an appointment for hoarding counseling with Carol Rose Adkisson in Fontana, California at call 909-693-3177.